Halloween is an exciting and much anticipated holiday tradition for children of all ages (and some adults, too). Halloween is a time to be anyone you want to be: Wonder Woman, The Incredible Hulk, or maybe even Spongebob Squarepants. Friends, family members, and strangers give out candy and treats just because you say “Trick or Treat”. Who isn’t excited when September becomes October and Halloween is rapidly approaching?
Let your child have a choice in their Halloween costume. Many children with Autism have sensory deficits that affect how comfortable they feel in certain pieces of clothing. A cape that is tied around the neck may be out of the question or a full mask that covers the entire face might be frightening. It’s better to know in advance about all of the potential setbacks rather than on the day of Halloween. Have your child try on a few costumes and observe to see if they pull or tug at the costume, or want to remove it after a few minutes. If your child refuses to wear any costume, consider letting them trick or treat in pajamas or regular clothing.
Many children with Autism have food allergies or sensitivities or may be on special diets. If candy is out of the question for any reason, consider asking neighbors and friends to give them stickers, baseball cards, or non-candy food treats such as cheese crackers. You can also only take your child trick or treating to homes of family and friends, so you can control what is given to them (such as gluten-free pretzels).
3. Trick or Treat Routine
A child with Autism may appear to be uncomfortable or unwilling to greet people as they open their door, make eye contact, say “Trick or Treat”, or hold out their bag/bucket. Even if your child has participated in trick or treating in the past, they may need help with the routine. Set up expectations in advance by preparing them 1-2 weeks before the holiday using stories, visual reminders, movies, or photographs. Review memories from past Halloweens and remind him/her about trick or treating, costumes, candy, and how to behave when trick or treating. Watch a movie or cartoon about trick or treating and have your child practice saying “Trick or Treat” or if your child has limited language, have them hand you a card that says “Trick or Treat”. Visuals, such as a poster, can help children with Autism understand complex or abstract concepts. Go over this information several times before the day approaches. On the night of Halloween remind the child of the routine as needed. For example, as you approach someone’s front porch say to your child “Okay, first we go knock on the door, and then what do we say?”
Safety is a concern on Halloween for all children, but especially for children with Autism. Take all necessary precautions to ensure that your child remains safe at all times. Be sure to dress in bright colors if you will be trick or treating at night. Go to familiar, brightly lit neighborhoods where the homes are close together. Avoid dark, heavily wooded, or unknown areas. Place a sticker or some other identifying mark on the costume especially if your child wanders away and doesn’t respond to their name. Be sure to hold their hand tightly especially when walking in crowds. Periodically remind your child during trick or treating that they must stay with you, and provide a big smile or praise when they follow your instructions.
5. Take someone with you
Bring a spouse, a friend, caregiver, aide or a family member with you as you take your child trick or treating. Halloween night is full of noisy children, colorful costumes, candy and treats to carry, and lots of people outside, and a child may become overwhelmed or overexcited. If this happens, it will be a great help to have someone else there to help manage your child’s behavior.
6. Have fun!
The last tip is to relax, have realistic expectations, help your child participate as fully as they can, and to remember why you are doing this: to have fun with your child. If your child has a tantrum in a neighbor’s yard or throws their mask into some bushes, that’s okay! The point of taking your child trick or treating is so they can learn to enjoy the Halloween festivities as much as other children do. Be sure to laugh often, tell your child they are doing a great job, and eat lots of chocolate.